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FMP 016 • Complicated Bereavement vs. Complicated Bewilderment

December 30, 2018 By Jerod Killick, M.S.

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“The hardest thing is that I only feel bad about not feeling bad.”

Today’s Episode – Loss is Complicated!

There is no cookie cutter approach to dealing with loss. Whether you are someone who recently experienced the death of a family member, or a therapist working with individuals through the bereavement process, how we take this journey is complicated. There is no clear pathway or destination.

Bereavement vs. Bewilderment

I share my own experience of the loss of my father earlier this month. While many will hear my remarks and recoil, I believe it is important to share my journey with openness and honesty. There is healing in transparency.

I have not experienced the, ‘typical,’ bereavement process depicted on television. Oftentimes, the media characterizes loss as self-reflective time with a clear resolution. On the occasion when things don’t go well, bereavement is described as, ‘complicated’ (clinically), with symptoms similar to depression.

In today’s episode, I reflect on my experience of, ‘complicated bewilderment‘. This has been a confusing time – The emotions I have experienced are absolutely lacking. If anything, I feel bad for not feeling bad.

I risk sounding like a sociopath. That is, of course, not the case. I have enough insight at this point in my journey, to understand that my experience is informed by how truly horrible my father was as a person. This is the honest truth, no matter how much it might offend. Going to social media and attempting to rewrite history through platitudes of what a great man he was, feels reprehensible.

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Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode

As mentioned, if you are looking for a great starting place in your studies on bereavement, read, “On Death and Dying,” by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. This ground breaking work walks you through the relative stages of loss.

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Jerod received his masters degree in Clinical Psychology in 1997, and later completed a post-graduate clinical and research concentration in Behavioural Medicine and Health Psychology.  He currently works as a senior leader in mental health and addictions for Vancouver Coastal Health. Please note that all views and opinions expressed on the Finding My Psych website and podcast are solely that of the author, Jerod Killick, M.S., and does not necessarily represent those of his employer.

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